Understanding Parental Alienation

When one parent tries to turn a child against the other, the emotional damage can be lasting, both for the parent-child relationship and for the child’s mental health. Colorado family courts take parental alienation seriously, because it can interfere with a child’s right to have a healthy relationship with both parents.

What Is Parental Alienation?

Parental alienation happens when one parent manipulates or pressures a child to reject the other parent. It can take many forms, from subtle comments that undermine the other parent to open hostility or false accusations. Over time, the child may begin to fear or resent the targeted parent without any valid reason.

How Colorado Courts View Parental Alienation

In Colorado, judges are required to make custody decisions based on the best interests of the child. If one parent is intentionally damaging the child’s relationship with the other, the court may view that behavior as emotionally abusive or as evidence that the alienating parent is not acting in the child’s best interest.

Depending on the circumstances, a judge may:

• Modify parenting time or decision-making authority

• Order family therapy or reunification counseling

• Restrict communication between the child and the alienating parent

• Consider alienation as a factor in future custody modifications

  
  

Signs of Parental Alienation

Some warning signs include:

• The child expresses extreme, one-sided negativity toward one parent

• The child uses adult language or reasons that sound rehearsed

• The preferred parent rewards loyalty and punishes affection for the other

• The child refuses contact without any history of abuse or neglect

  
  

What to Do If You Suspect Parental Alienation

If you believe your co-parent is turning your child against you:

1. Document everything. Keep records of messages, missed visits, and concerning behavior.

2. Stay calm and consistent. Avoid reacting emotionally in front of your child.

3. Seek professional help. A therapist experienced in family dynamics can help support you and your child.

4. Talk to an attorney. Parental alienation cases can be complex. You’ll need legal guidance to effectively show the court how the behavior is affecting your child.

Remember: Every situation is unique, and this article is for general information only -- it’s not legal advice. To discuss your specific case, contact us for a consultation.